Letting go of toxic people, including your mother

Letting go of toxic people, including your mother
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If you believe the following four things about your mother, you two may be in a toxic relationship:

1. She’s dismissive. Who doesn’t desire acceptance, attention and validation from their mother? In place of love, she chooses to be selfish and emotionally neglectful.


2. She’s combative. Conflict should be her first name. She thrives on negativity and struggle.

3. She’s an attention seeker. Does she support your accomplishments only if she can toot her own horn? The spotlight has to center on her.


4. She’s mean. She’s hateful and spiteful. Criticism supersedes any words of admiration. Your mother thrives on any opportunity to hurt your feelings.

While you can’t choose a parent, you can determine the impact her actions will have on you. Here are the three Ds to get past this destructive relationship:

1. Disallow. Don’t let this destroy your relationships with others. Holding on to hatred and anger will grow into an emotion that can be uncontrollable.

2.Determine. Do some soul-searching to decide if the fault lies with you. Have a real conversation with yourself. What role did you play in this failed connection?

3. Decision. What doesn’t serve you can no longer have your energy. Let it go. Holding onto grudges and ill feelings will leave you broke and broken. Get rid of that burden.

Who doesn’t desire to have a loving and nurturing relationship with their parent? However, when the two of you can’t be on the same page, you must decide to put you first.

Letting go of toxic people, including your mother

Anissa D. Blair is an Atlanta-based author and blogger with a passion for writing and being a mother and wife. In her blog, “Straight, No Chaser,” she represents everyday women “just trying to cope doing average s—” and covers all topics — from the good, the bad, and the ugly of navigating through life’s obstacles and roadblocks, to building and keeping successful relationships while trying to maintain your sanity. No taboo topics here. You can read her work at rollingout.com/anissa/ and follow her on social media @anissadblair on Instagram, @anissablair on Facebook, and Blended In Love on YouTube.

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Writing is my passion but being a mother and wife are definitely important too. I decided to start a blog that represented everyday women just trying to cope doing average sh--. Nothing out of the ordinary; unless you count trying to juggle a career with a family. I'm that woman that has failed more times than she cares to count, but consciously decided to say what the he--; let me try it AGAIN! I proudly proclaim that I’m 40 something and a happily married woman (I’m not bragging but I’m on my third marriage) with three beautiful children. I can scream from the mountaintop that I finally got it RIGHT! I’ve kissed quite a few frogs to get to my Prince Charming. I plan on discussing all topics, the good-the bad and the ugly related to navigating through life’s obstacles and road blocks into building and keeping successful relationships while trying to maintain your sanity. No taboo topics here.
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